A friend showed me this questionnaire that assesses your insecurities/toxic traits: https://www.positiveintelligence.com/saboteurs/
‘Toxic traits’ was how my friend presented the site to me. However, after having completed the questionnaire and taken a look at my results and analysis, I wouldn’t say it was about ‘toxic traits’ rather, just some areas we can continue to grow and be more mindful of.
What the survey reminded me of, was a podcast I recently listened to and thoroughly enjoyed, on the topic of fear. In the episode, Adam Grant interviewed Alex Hannold, the first person who climbed El Capitan, without a rope or a harness. They candidly discussed fear and how Hannold reconditioned his brain to perceive danger and threat differently, and subsequently elicit a different biological response from his brain. Of the many strategies, Cognitive Reappraisal caught my attention the most.
The difference between average people and achieving people is their perception of and response to failure.John C. Maxwell.
Cognitive reappraisal is defined as the attempt to reinterpret an emotion-eliciting situation in a way that alters its meaning and changes its emotional impact (Lazarus and Alfert, 1964; Gross and John, 2003).
For example, if you perceive working out as a chore, then you are less likely going to be consistent with it; whereas, if you rewire your brain to perceive working out as a treat or special ‘Me time’, then you will be more motivated to work out consistently.
Is there something off the top of your head that you think you can cognitively reappraise to improve the quality of your life?